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First, let me frame this. You are choosing because you want this, and you want it enough to make it an everyday thing rather than an occasional one.

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You are at choice at every point; if you are building trust, there is no need for shackles. The partners know each other so well that they want the same things and move together seamlessly. You are not extending your wank fantasies into your everyday reality; you will not be aroused at all times.

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This is not a huge ongoing role-play scenario. It comes with a whole different — related, but different — psychology.

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You are choosing from a place of strength. You do not need this, you just want it a lot. You are not making up for dysfunction, and if you should discover dysfunction along the way, you have a…. At the same time as you both need to commit to working on your shit, you also need to find a way to balance this with a commitment to taking each other as you are.

You are choosing a relationship form that suits you because of your individual chemistry and fit, NOT because one of you is inherently superior, and certainly not because of gender, sex, race, age, financial situation, ability, community standing, etc.

This mostly comes up with sex, by which I mean male and female—because there are only two options in this line of thought. You will each make mistakes because you are human; neither of you is immune to fucking up. Build that understanding into your relationship, along with ways to deal with fuck-ups on either part. 24/7 bdsm dominants can and do apologize when they fuck up. A 24/7 bdsm, dignified apology, when needed, 24/7 bdsm a building block for a solid relationship, and the very epitome of trustworthy dominance. And we all have limits, even if those limits do well to be challenged at times.

Frame it however you will, but communication is essential—and that does not mean the submissive baring their soul while the dominant remains impassive. Communication works both ways. Improving your communication skills is a lifelong project for most of us, and it is wise to see that as a good thing rather than as a chore. Yes, it will be hard. Do it anyway. Learn to love it. will follow. Failing 24/7 bdsm explicit agreement otherwise, this is a power hierarchy between you and your partner, not between you and your community, or you and every dominant or submissive you meet, or you and everyone in the world.

Otherwise you will turn into one of those nightmare dominants or submissives that everyone kinky wants to avoid hello, consent! Have I mentioned that? Intense, soul-searching relationships that affect every moment of every day do not exist in a vacuum. That support can take many forms:. Of course you want to maintain basic respect for each other and your relationship — airing your dirty laundry for all to see, or trashing your partner loudly at a play party, is just not classy.

But having one or two trusted friends to turn to in times of trouble can be essential, and a wise dominant will encourage the submissive to seek out support rather than discouraging it. Take your time. Learn what you need to learn—about yourself, about them, about how to do this well and feel good about it. And if you both want the dominant to be in charge, then the dominant sets the pace and the submissive heels. Which is frightening.

Hi Andrea, Thanks for posting this! Do you ever conduct workshops in Vancouver? Ranat — Yup. Anyway, thanks for the kind words! Anyway, thanks for your comment! I very much enjoyed reading this post! Thank you! I hear them grappling with what timing decisions are best for the dom to decide, and what timing decisions are theirs to give consent for. What advice do you have in that struggle? Anything that erodes trust will erode the relationship, and rightly so. But at the same time, if the dominant is too keen on setting a fast pace and the submissive balks, then perhaps all is as it should be.

Wow, thank you for posting! This is all great advice. This is powerful stuff that needs to be said. I started out as a gung-ho sub ready to follow His every move and do anything He said, and reality hit me like a punch to the stomach. How silly of me. It is consensual, after all. Absolutely brilliant. Thank you so much for this post. Master and I are new to this lifestyle and have been researching and reading everything. I have a question involving moving too fast and hard limits…I have a very traditional monogamous nature.

Master does not. Although he can be faithful in relationships, this new ownership of me has lead him to places like poly and multiple partners. He tells me these fantasies. I fear he will allow fantasy to become reality for the sake of sexual gratification and it will take precedence over our loving relationship. BTW, druslan, as he named me is Icelandic for slut. Owning someone is not something that happens overnight. That trust is sacred. Any Master etc. In some ways mastery is truly the art of self-restraint, paired with the ability to deeply listen to what is right.

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That restraint opens up space for trust; deep listening to any and all information verbal, non-verbal, spiritual, etc. No, not necessarily. The cultural and social values that surround monogamy are multi-layered and extremely powerful; regardless of what our ultimate relationship choices are, I believe we would all do well to re-think the reasons behind our beliefs in that regard. So perhaps your Master sees in you the genuine potential to break down your thought process and beliefs, soften some boundaries and experience happiness in new ways of doing relationship.

Perhaps he has reason to believe that ultimately, you will be happier if you open up to non-monogamy. And he may well be right. You take a risk, your Master holds you and supports you in it, and it works out well and feels good. Once or twice, most 24/7 bdsm us can get over. But again — this is all about trust-building. Mastery is not about getting your way all the time and forcing someone else to comply. Ownership has nothing to do with force.

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I am on 24/7 bdsm, is this the site or blog or whatever that I can follow????? I love all your posts and comments, they make so muCh sense to me and my new Sub self discovery. Andrea, thank you so much for the posted reply. This is exactly what he tells me. Your posts are insightful and a welcome change to most of the sex-perts online. Want to hold classes in Florida? Thanks, druslan former soccer mom.

And that is by making the other person want to do it. I read Carnegie when I was 7 or 8 years old and he was a formative influence on my little mind. Fascinating to see you quote him in this context. Very cool. Feel free to drop me a line if you want to make that happen! I particularly like your comments about pacing, both in the body of the post and the subsequent remarks. There were other factors, of course, but that was what a lot of what underlay the issues.

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I found your words comforting and reassuring. I wanted to give you an update. I have had a few threesome encounters with Master now. It seems after all of our conversations and deep soul searching revelations that he is bi-sexual. This is actually my eureka that he soon came to accept…lol We are currently seeking a third for a poly household.

A bi-male! The struggle and issues that ly plagued me disappeared when I realized that the reason for the third was to satisfy something he had denied himself throughout his life due to other people telling him it was wrong. When I saw how open and trusting he was with his past pain and the horrible reaction others had shown him, my heart melted and so did the fears. Instead of fear I was proud of him for sharing. I was also honored when he told 24/7 bdsm he wanted this very much but only to share with me.

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This man took the ultimate risk and openned himself to me not knowing what my reaction would be. The first time, he studied my face the entire time. I made sure he only saw love, appreciation and pleasure looking back at him.

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