Originally published in , Feelings: It is out of print now and this is an appropriate time to republish it as a companion volume to Girl in the Dream. Although more than 2 decades old, Feelings continues to provide practical advice along with a not insignificant measure of encouragement, reassurance and hope for practitioners, allies, members of the transgender community and the general reading public that continues to be pertinent today. Feelings provides a historical perspective as well as an intimately captured personal journey of transgender experience that is still relevant and appealing today. In this Article: While there are supposedly biological differences in the brains of transgender and cisgender people, there still isn't any simple test to take to say if the gender you were assigned at birth is correct. Nonetheless, with some soul-searching and a little help from the experts, you can find the identity that suits you best. If you are seriously questioning your gender identity, get in touch with your feelings and embrace your uncertainty. Talk to a counselor who specialized in gender identity so that you have someone to support you through the process. Remember that there are many ways to identify, and the most important thing is to figure out what you want. Mar 10, - While feelings may come and go, they are almost always indicative of an underlying cause. And normal is subjective. So when is this "phase" of interest in trans Is it possible to get rid of transgender feelings and become. Like other trans people, transsexual people may refer to themselves as trans men or trans women. Transsexual people desire to establish a permanent gender role as a member of the gender with which they identify, and many transsexual people pursue medical interventions as part of the process of expressing their gender.
Sex with a transsexual woman is a literal minefield in a number of ways. In this article, I am going to speak frankly to men about making love with the transsexual Transsexual Feelings. Why a sex article? This site is about trans women and relationships with men.
People who are transgender feel a disconnect between their own internal concept of their gender and the gender roles made by their society.
For example, someone born male may not feel much, if any, connection to what his culture has defined as being "masculine" and may instead strongly identify with what is typically defined as being "feminine. Some transgender people's sense of difference is so strong that they identify as transsexual and believe their assigned sex at birth was wrong and that their correct sex is one that aligns with their internal feelings.
In general, transgender is an umbrella term than can include transsexual, as well as other related terms, such as transvestite. One of the more well-thought out and nuanced explanations was written by Julia Serano, author of Whipping Girl: The word transgender historically as well as within the context of this essay refers to people who defy societal expectations regarding gender. Transgender people of all kinds, including transsexual people, can be gay, lesbian, bisexual, or asexual.
Sexual orientation is not linked to gender identity. A transsexual person who undergoes gender reassignment surgery may be perceived as having an orientation change if they go from being interested in the "same" gender to the "opposite" gender or vice versa because of their own transition. In the following video, a trans woman clearly explains the terms transgender, transsexual, drag queen, drag king and transvestite:. Transsexual condition is very well defined and can be diagnosed medically.
The transgender community is symbolized by a pride flag which consists of pink and blue horizontal stripes on both ends, symbolizing transition. Another symbol for transgender people is the butterfly symbolizing metamorphosis.
There is, however, no separate symbol for transsexuals. Some transgender individuals opt for medical intervention to change their appearance. Those that fall within the transsexual subsection of the transgender community are more likely to opt for such changes.
Hormone replacement therapy HRT is available for both trans men and trans women to promote masculine and feminine attributes respectively. Surgical procedures are also available to remove ovaries, Fallopian tubes, the uterus in trans men and make adequate changes in the chest and genitalia. Similarly, in trans women, appropriate changes are made to the face, throat, chest, waist, buttocks and genitalia along with excess hair removal.
Depending on the person's state or country of residence, a legal change of name or gender change may be allowed only if the individual is diagnosed with gender identity disorder GIS indicating distress.
Prior to making these legal changes, a letter from the physician to confirm the diagnosis may be required. Some jurisdictions require full surgical reassignment before a change of gender is allowed on official documents, while others less restrictive rules. Some do not allow a change in legal documents at any time. Transsexuals who undergo surgery may face discrimination at work and health insurance issues after the change. Some people do not identify as male or female; they believe neither gender fits them.
In an historic legal ruling in June , a judge in Oregon granted a petition allowing a person to legally choose neither sex and be classified as nonbinary. The etiquette of talking with transgender people isn't really different from talking with cis-gendered people. Cooper offers the following advice:.
Different religions have their own views about transgender and transsexual individuals, and not all religions are tolerant toward this community. There is no clear distinction of the two terms in religious texts, and, though most religions have condemned trans behavior, there are cultures and traditions that promote acceptance in some parts of the world, religion notwithstanding.
Share this comparison: If you read this far, you should follow us: Diffen LLC, n. Whoever wrote this is full of it! A lot is misleading information. First you need to understand the difference between gender and sex. Gender is a linguistic term based on social standards which can vary a lot from one society to another, while sex is a biological. Transgender is an umbrella term used to describe people who do not conform to the social rules of gender.
It simply means to "transcend" the barriers of "gender. Transsexuals are people who do not identity internally mentally with the biological sex they were born with. NOT assigned to like the author stated. The only exception are people born with DSD and ambiguous genitalia. In some cases doctors perform a surgery to assign them a sex. The word transsexual means to "transcend" the barriers of "sex. Even though transsexuals are also considered transgender because as they transcend the barriers of sex, they also transcend the social barriers of gender.
Many transsexual people do not like to be identified as transgender for different reasons. Some because they do not want to be associated with Xdressers and transvestites. Which is understandable since many ignorant people see transsexuals as transvestites. Perhaps in the same way that people with DSD do not like to be seen as transsexuals, which in fact they aren't. Unfortunately, we live in a world in which most people see sex and gender in black and white only and don't realize that there are a lot of shades of gray in between.
They do not understand the difference between sex, gender identity, gender expression, and sexual orientation. Sex is what "junk" physical sex organs you were born with. Which is more than just chromosomes like some would like to suggest. In fact, you can not tell someone sex from sex chromosomes alone. But that's different can of worms. People assume that there are only females and males, yet there are people who are born somewhere in the middle.
Or what we know has DSD or intersex. Gender Identity is the sex you internally identify with internally mentally. Once more, people think that you can only identify as female or male, yet some identity as being somewhere in the middle.
Gender Role is based entirely on social rules and NOT biology. In most societies a female is expected to act and dress in a social appropriate way for females and the opposite for males. There are some people who feel that gender roles do not apply to them and act and dress in an androgynous way.
Then sexual orientation. Most are familiar with gay, straight, and bisexuals. So there's no need to explain these further. A person is a combination of all these four factors. You can be born female, identify as a female, express you way in a feminine way, and like men. That's the ideal picture of a female in most cultures. But you could also be born female, identify female, express your your self in a masculine way, and be bisexual or gay or straight.
Or be born female, identify as a male, express androgynously, and like men. Or any other possible combinations of all these four factors. The point is that human behavior is more complex than black and white or yes and no. So keep in mind that if you see someone who you think is transsexual or gay, may in fact not me one.
They may I just be someone who express themselves in a way that may be more sociably acceptable for their opposite sex. When I was a teen, we had a male neighbor who identified as a male, dressed as a woman dresses, make up and all , but guess what, he was not gay!!!
He was physically and sexually attracted to women and not men at all. So don't judge a book by its cover. That's a very basic social rule that most talk about, but that flys out the window when they see someone who does not conform to what society have brain washed them into thinking is normal female and male behavior.
I disagree with something that anonymous wrote the really long post. Anonymous wrote that "you are not and can not be assigned a sex. If the parents haven't found out ahead of time, the medical personnel look at the outer genitalia and pick boy or girl from what they see.
Finding out boy or girl before that is still looking at just outer genitalia using a sonogram. When things aren't apparent at first glance is when things get interesting. Unfortunately years ago sex was assigned without further testing. At least these days there is DNA testing. Log in to edit comparisons or create new comparisons in your area of expertise! Comparison chart Transgender versus Transsexual comparison chart Transgender Transsexual Definition An umbrella term that refers to those with identities that cross over, move between, or otherwise challenge the socially constructed border between the genders.
While this can include medical or social transition, it may not. A term referring to a person who does not identify with the sex they were assigned at birth and wishes, whether successful or not, to realign their gender and their sex through use of medical intervention.
Surgery Some opt to have surgery, while others choose to abstain from this practice. Often, if available to the person, however it completely depends on the person.
Medical Condition While no consistent diagnoses is given to transgender people, some may qualify for a diagnosis under Gender Dysphoria or Intersex conditions. DSM-V labels transsexual people Gender Dysphoric, a label contested by many trans people who say the problem is physical, not mental. Sexual orientation Typically not relevant. Therefore transgender people can be straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, asexual, pansexual, etc. Typically not relevant. Therefore transsexual people can be straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, asexual, pansexual, etc.
The distinction and lack thereof between transgender and transsexual The word transgender historically as well as within the context of this essay refers to people who defy societal expectations regarding gender. Differences in Sexual Orientation Transgender people of all kinds, including transsexual people, can be gay, lesbian, bisexual, or asexual.